Part 3: Us Vs The World
How we're preparing for marriage and not just a wedding
Our engagement is not just preparation for the wedding day; it's also preparing us for marriage. Planning a wedding gets us to the big day, but are we doing tasks together now that will lead to numerous anniversaries. In these past four months, we have grown more excited about tackling life with our built in best friend, confidant and encourager.
As a couple, we understand how having similar goals is important. Together, we'll be able to achieve goals faster and efficiently versus doing them alone. So we have discussed major life changes and how we want to manage them our way in our own time. What we decide to do is what's best for us, including the wedding day.
First, we both love to travel and try new adventures so we're focusing more on experiences instead of just gifts. We plan to travel quarterly to give ourselves a break from the mundane. It could be a short road trip or an extended vacation overseas, as long we're enjoying each other's presence, we're happy.
Second, even though he's moving into my home, it's time to start thinking about "our" home. A bigger home that’s a reflection of us that will meet our needs for business and entertainment space with a relaxing sunroom.
Next, we definitely want children, just not today. We have so many places to travel and explore before settling down with children. It's ok to live life as adults before becoming parents. Even though I have a 19-year old son, I still want two more boys. Yes, two.
Lastly, there's satisfaction in delayed gratification. Going out to eat as a couple is costly, but if we cook dinners together, meal prep, and pack lunches, we can save enough funds to purchase our dream home faster. Working together and disciplining ourselves will help us achieve goals with a bigger reward.
Our wedding day will be a reflection of our personalities and our marriage will be a reflection of our strengths together to overcome life's challenges and achieve goals. We tackle problems together instead of one person suffering in silence because we realize we’re not in this alone. We’re best friends, encouragers, problem solvers, prayer partners and comedians. From wedding day to numerous anniversaries.
Tip #3: It's never one spouse against the other spouse. It's us versus the problem.
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